For sexual assault survivors, it is hard to go through something that no one wants to talk or hear about, but keeping it in can be more damaging than good. Healing takes time, and most have questions. Below is a helpful list of links and pdfs to help you find the answers you need.

link Helpful Links

pdf Pdf's 

Being a survivor of domestic abuse is a cycle that feels like it never ends, and can flood you full of emotions that you thought you could never feel at one time.  Below is a helpful list of links and pdf's to help you find the answers you need.

link Helpful Links



Rules & Guidelines

The following is also found when you click on " Chat" on the main CasualSpace website,  By choosing the blue "Chat " button on the chat bar, you have already agreed to this statement of rules, but if you ever need to review the rules this is the place to do it.

Please read the following rules BEFORE logging on or registering for the chat rooms.  By logging in or registering for the chat rooms you are agreeing that you have read these rules and will follow them. 

No person under the age of 13 is allowed to register for the chat room: due to U.S. federal laws, we are not allowed to have members under the age of 13 in chat without a bunch of paperwork.  If it comes to our attention that you are under 13, your account may be banned at our sole determination.

Abusive or sexually explicit language: this is not the “Howard Stern Show” so we request that swearing or vulgar/sexually explicit language not be used we do have a filter in place but just because we do filter it does not give you the right to cuss like a sailor.

 All rooms are rated PG-13.  IF you are over the age of 18 and wish to discuss graphic depictions of abuse please use the adults-only room.

 RESPECT EVERYONE: This site is public and does not tolerate flaming of any kind towards any person or group.  If you cannot get along with another please right-click on their name and choose ignore.  The core principle of our site is “CARE” Care stands for “Connect.  Appreciate.  Respect.  Everyone:

Respect the staff: Moderators (white) are here to run the room and make sure everything is OK.  Crisis Mods (red) are here to not only mod the room but help users who are in crisis. Supervisors (green) are here to backup the crisis mods and non-crisis mods and may mod themselves.

Only staff may add the suffixes “MOD”, “ADM”, “ADMIN”, “CONN” “RCONN”, “RMIC”, “Mentor”, “TM”, “Peer-Mentor”, “SUP”, “SuperVis”, or “Super” to their name.

Speaking of names, do not use a name which contains profanity, sexually suggestive language, or makes an impression that you are a member of site staff.

We are NOT trained or equipped to handle suicide crisis chats, if you are thinking about suicide we will listen but please, do not take offense if we tell you respectfully that we cannot help you but instead direct you to call a suicide prevention hotline.

Moderators may only ban a user by taking the following steps IN ORDER. Talk to the user to resolve conflicts, silence the user for up to five minutes, kick the user from chat, warn of a three-day ban for a first offense/violation if it is persistent ban them.

bans are three days for the first offense, thirty days for the second offense, a third ban me be for 30 days or it could be permanent.

 DO NOT private message someone without first obtaining permission in the main room.  Moderators, supervisors, and the chat director are exempt from this rule.

If too or more users cause chaos in a room a supervisor may elect to close it.

any person found to be soliciting personal information from a user who is under 18 will be banned immediately whether that is addresses, phone numbers, IM or other off site contact.  

Supervisors may not use /speak or talk in ghost mode unless this is an absolute emergency which will materialize as a red system message.

While we encourage our users to talk and open up to us and don’t mind talking about issues such as self-harm, we do ask that any talk of self-harm not include threats of suicide or acting on harming yourself.

The official language of this site is English. 

 We do not have staff sufficiently trained in other languages so we ask that all chats be in English.

 users may change their name in chat using the /nick command this is to facilitate a temporary name change for persons with DID/MPD but is open to any user.

 Cybersex is not permitted in any room.

We are NOT licensed counselors we are survivors just like you, willing to give hope, and knowledge about our feelings and we have and our experience’s our forums and resources!

Cookie Use Policy


IMPORTANT: READ CAREFULLY! This policy document describes how we use

cookies. By accessing our website you agree to our use of cookies

along with the following disclosures. This statement has been designed to make a reasonable attempt to be in alignment with international privacy legislation and directives. We CANNOT guarantee that it will be 100% compliant at all times due to the constantly changing nature of internet and privacy-related laws and initiatives in a myriad of countries and regions around the globe.

Q: Do we use cookies of any kind?

A: Yes, we use cookies to among other things, remember your

preferences, automatically sign you in if you so elect to be

auto-logged in, preserve which items you have read in forums or other

site areas.

Q: Do your site's cookies track me across the web?

A: No, the cookies used by our site's software do NOT track you across

the web and are intended for use by our site and its external service

providers (namely the chat room)

Q: Which parts of your site are provided by external service providers

and not directly by you?

A: at this time, the only external service we use that is not directly

hosted on our server is the chat room. 

Q: Can I use your site without enabling cookies?

A: Absolutely! However, by disabling cookies, you may suffer from a

less than optimal experience.


Forum Guidelines

    No person under 13 years of age may register: Due to U.S. Federal law, persons under 13 years of age will not be allowed to register for any reason.

    ANY ATTEMPT to circumvent any security measures such as content moderation or group-based restrictions will lead to an IMMEDIATE AND PERMANENT ban, no questions asked. The various security features implemented by groups, software, and other systems are INTENDED TO KEEP ALL MEMBER SAFE. By attempting to weaken these security measures, you could be putting other members and yourself at risk of a system breach on other instability.

    Religion and Politics are STRICTLY OFF LIMITS: nothing starts more flame wars than religion and politics; therefore we are strictly banning the topics on the forum, blogs, and gallery. The only exception to this is if it is in the religion or politics folders.

    RESPECT EVERYONE: regardless of any metric such as race, religion, disability, sexual preference, conforming to a stereotype or not, ALL GROUPS ARE WELCOME AND WERE INVITED. Just because someone's views on a topic are different than yours does not give either party a right to talk down to the other. If the disagreement cannot be resolved within these guidelines, please put each other on ignore.

    Keep personal information personal: people online are not always who they claim. As such we discourage off-site contact. Personal information includes your real name, address, school name, phone numbers, IM handles, facebook or other social media contacts. IT IS HIGHLY DISCOURAGED TO SHARE THIS INFORMATION. IF YOU DO SHARE THIS INFORMATION WITH ANOTHER PERSON ON SITE, WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR ANY OFF-SITE CONTACT.


    The official language of this site is English: not that we frown on any other language, but we do not have staff sufficiently trained in other languages. This rule applies to topics, posts comments, comments, blogs, images, tags or any other publically accessible content.

    No threats of suicide or self-harm: while we encourage our members to share their feelings and open up to us, we do not have sufficient resources to be a suicide prevention site. As such we realize that suicidal thoughts or thoughts of self-harm are coping skills some people have. It is OK to talk about them and working on better ways to cope but talking about acting on them is NOT OK. Please see the hotlines page at

    No Cyber Bullying: all reports of cyberbullying will be fully investigated and if necessary information turned over to the authorities.

    No adult content is allowed: There are plenty of sites to link to content of an adult nature, this site is not one of them. Any adult content will be deleted.

    No discussions of any illegal activities allowed: put simply, if it's not allowed on the streets, it's not allowed to be talked about on our forum or in blog posts or gallery uploads.

    No cross posting: cross-posting is defined as posting the same topic or post in multiple forums within the same site. Doing this is seen as forum spam and all double posts will be removed

 NO SPAMMING: Any link which is not open and has you jump through ridiculous hoops like surveys or advertising (e.g. links) will be seen as advertising and you will be warned.

    No backseat modding: this means if you are not a member of staff, you are not permitted to threaten official action against a member for breaking the rules. We as the forum staff take our job very seriously and backseat modding makes you look like a total jerk yourself. If it violates the rules you have three options, 1) politely tell the member they are doing so, 2) hit the report button, and 3) ignore the member. We highly encourage you to hit that report button in all circumstances where you believe staff action is required.

    Discussion of staff actions against another member in public OR private are prohibited: this is not a rumor mill here if someone got banned or suspended or warned they need to work it out with the staff not have everyone form opinions of them because they are nosey.

    Registration of multiple accounts for MEMBERS is strictly prohibited. Staff and/or external service vendors (ESVs) are exempt from this rule. If you are found to have opened multiple accounts ALL ACCOUNTS WILL BE DELETED. The Switch Account function is intended for STAFF USE ONLY

    Be original: remember all the stuff they taught us about plagiarism in school? Well, it applies here too. If it was not your original work or thoughts, give proper credit to the original person. If you modified the lyrics to a song or something say that they are modified versions of the original artist's work.

    Change is imminent: that's right! This guideline set can and more than likely will be changed from time to time, as such you should review it often. Upon such change, your continued use of the site and any functions you participated in affirm that you agree to be bound by the then-current version of the guidelines.

    All gallery uploads must be "Rated PG-13": This means: 1) keep your clothes on, swimsuit and underwear shots will be removed. 2) Not too much "blood and gore" if you're creative with the scary stuff that's fine, but chopped off heads on a stick just because is not OK. 3) No depictions of abuse of any kind whether to humans or animals. 4) No promotion of drugs and guns as "the answer" that means that if it's a picture of someone hunting it's fine if it's a picture of someone getting ready to commit suicide that's not OK. 4) No promotion of gangs or crime. 

    Content Moderation is not censorship: if we determine it necessary, we can make it mandatory for all new content posted by a certain member or the entire community to be "approved" by a member of staff if it gets to the point where we are moving posts around and deleting things we shouldn't even be seeing. Certain areas of the site are moderated areas to ensure that content posted there is not in violation of any provision of the guideline or to ensure that the content meets standards for what we believe is appropriate for the site or the area in question.

    PM or "Personal Message" Policy: While PM is a great way to have personal discussions with another member or multiple members, it is not to be abused to get around the rules. If another member repeatedly reports that you are harassing them by PM or spamming by PM this may lead to official warnings and revocation of PM permissions or access permissions to the site. REMEMBER ALL RULES that apply to other areas of the site apply in PM too.


The below statement is known as the privacy extension and is intended to give a general overview of basic privacy guidelines and miscellaneous things we need to say.  for more information please see our full privacy policy.

Your privacy is important to us. To better protect your privacy we provide this notice explaining our online information practices and the choices you can make about the way your information is collected and used. To make this notice easy to find, we make it available in our footer and at every point where personally identifiable information may be requested.

Log files are maintained and analyzed of all requests for files on this website's web servers. Log files do not capture personal information but do capture the user's IP address, which is automatically recognized by our web servers.

Our Commitment to Children's Privacy

Protecting the privacy of the very young is especially important. For that reason, we never collect or maintain information at our website from those we actually know are under 13, and no part of our website is structured to attract anyone under 13.


This website does not store any information that would, on its own, allow us to identify individual users of this service without their permission. Any cookies that may be used by this website are used either solely on a per session basis or to maintain user preferences. Cookies are not shared with any third parties.


Disclaimer for Casualspace Community Downloads

Our site (and all of its contents) is free of charge for our user's personal usage. displays works of cultural, emotional, spiritual, and uplifting resources to; eBooks, puzzles, videos, etc. for the benefit of the end user.

The site may not be used by anyone with the intention to track usage, log ip addresses/usage, commit fraud or anything else that we consider intrusion of privacy or disruption of our service. If you are not sure if this would be the case for your usage, please contact us in order to get our permission.

The site is run privately. That means that we do not guarantee that the site will be available for users at all time but we try our best to make the site run stable. We take no responsibility for loss of income or similar due to downtime/failure.

If you are a copyright holder or the designated agent of a copyright holder and believe that your work is being infringed upon, please use our SolutionCenter and submit a ticket with the following information:

    you name

    a means to contact you such as a phone number, or email address

    the location of the infringing content

    a physical or electronic signature

    a statement under penalty of purgery that you have a good faith belief that the claims in your report are true and accurate to the best of your knowledge.

This policy may change at any time, please check in before using the site.

Connecting to our site means that you accept this policy agreement.

Policy about Suicide and Self-Harm in Chat or on the Forum

The following is a more expanded version of the statements posted in the main chat room connect page, in the chat room rules, and in various places on the site.  Please read.

 Threats of Suicide

While we encourage our users to open up to us and share their feelings in chat and on the forums and in blogs and other media, but

We are NOT Therapists, or suicide prevention counselors.

While we do have a specialized team of moderators in chat rooms; we do not have the training to handle suicide crisis situations.  Crisis mods are more of an intermediate step somewhere between not being in crisis at all and suicide crisis.  Remember the following points about contacting a crisis mod:

    Crisis mods are here to listen and provide direction to appropriate resources

    Crisis mods are survivors just like you

    Crisis mods are more a shoulder to cry on and are trained in listening, not trained in counseling

    While crisis mods can give a PERSONAL OPINION on a situation, their opinion should be treated as opinion not advice and you should consider getting a second opinion from a qualified medical, legal, financial, or other appropriate advisers.

    If a crisis chat continues to go to the extremes of self-harm, harm to others, or suicide and we believe you are serious and you did not take the resource(s) we did offer you, the crisis mod MUST respectfully state that the chat is outside of our scope and ability to support and should you continue to push the issue you will be kicked.  This is NOT  saying "go away" or "I can't help you" or similar, it is simply saying "here are more qualified people who can better help you, talk to them".  Being kicked from chat after being told "this is not within our scope" is not our staff running from their job, nor is it washing our hands of the situation.  The kicking is simply our final way of telling you to use the resources provided.

If you are thinking about suicide, or need immediate attention please call 911, or your local emergency number.  Click suicidepreventionlifeline for instant chat with a person who is well equipped to handle suicide situations.

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